Haere ra, sweet Ash

Ashley Jay Hemi 08.07.89 to 07.08.89

A beautiful send off, the heart still weeps
Your memory will stay within us for keeps
You were truly a spark that lit up lives
So bright and clever but not always wise
Your life was filled with much love and much pain
A loss so deep - we will never be the same
Go gently our Ash, let love be your guide
To dwell in His house with your nan by your side
Rest easy our Ash, let our love keep you safe
Until we meet again in heaven's embrace

😘

Fly with the angels sweet girl 💞

In the nightmare before the dream

I was 20. Living on the streets.
Every moment of every day as if it were my last.
No care. No worries. No stress.
Did I want this life? No.
Did I ask for this life? I don't think so.
So why was I here?

Does it start with the parentals? 

When the parents would come home from the pub with a whole lot of people carrying crates and flagons.  The guitar comes out and they're singing and laughing. And the more they drink, the more they read into what isn't even there and they get louder and louder. The room fills up with smoke and the swearing butts in.  Dad is yelling at mum and mum is yelling back. The guitar player stops playing and bottles start rattling just before the thumping noises and screams start.  Does my pathway to the hell I'm in start there?

What about the abuse?

Dad's gone to jail and a few 'uncles' are coming through the door.  All of them are drunk, just like mum and they're slobbery and stink and trying to get some of those 'extra cuddles' in with me while mum is passed out in her own vomit beside the toilet.  Maybe it started there.

And the hidings...

There's a new man in the house.  He's looks a lot younger. He doesn't have kids. Gee, mum has six!  He was good to us. He cooked banana cake ... and then his kid was born. Now we're the bastards. The other man's kids. 'Your fucking kids,' he yells at our maternal parent.  And she lets him hit us. "No wonder they're mad, you keep hitting them in the head." She's pleading with him.  Hug us! Tell us you're going to protect us! Maybe it started there.

The institutions ...

They said I was just like him. "Just like your father!"
How do I know? I hardly remember him. What was he like?
He must be better than this hand that lifts me off my feet and throws me into the walls. He must be better than this hand that causes the side of my face to swell and the raised welts on my legs. Surely?
Why did they send me away? Just like my father? Maybe?

The gangs ...

There is shelter and protection and ways to mask the pain within. Those that ask nothing but expect everything. Those that use and abuse you until you become a user and abuser.
It didn't start here. It was already on a roll.

The teacher ...

Who picked me up out of the gutter.
Who showed honesty, trust and warmth.
Who led me to another pathway.
Who saved me from myself.

I am 21 and the dream is about to begin ...

Grammar vs Meaning

I say, "Yous got a money?" and I'm laughed at for not speaking English properly but in Māori I would say, "He moni āu?" 
They say, "You Maoris" and I say there is no 's' in Māori. 
But it's not Māori, they say. It's English to add the 's' and I'm speaking English.
Ohhhh... right. So I ask again, "You got a moneys?" 
😂😂
Yeah, just try and get grammatical with me again!

Cousin, why?

My cousin died yesterday afternoon from injuries sustained in a head-on collision his car made with a car-carrier truck in the Kaimai Ranges, east of Hamilton. 

Yesterday (21 hrs ago) his distraught partner had taken to facebook in a bid to help find him,

"PLEASE from the bottom of my heart help us find him. 
This man is my darling, my baby's dad. An amazing father, friend, uncle, son, brother and partner who is dearly loved by us all ❤❤
His name is Te Hokinga Mai Katipa also known as Hooks. 
He has been struggling with Mental Health for a number of months
And we are so worried about him 😭😭😭
We miss him, we love him, and we just want to him to come back home to us safe and alive ❤❤
Please help us find him. We don't have alot of time"

I woke up this morning at 5.30 to hear that he was no longer with us.  God I just wanna scream!!  

I remember when you were a baby and why you were named.  After the Exhibition that came home in 1987.  It was called Te Hokinga Mai - The Return Home.  It was a history making time and I suppose aunty wanted you to carry that name to remember a time Māori took to the international stage and were revered. 

I met you at my grandmother's funeral.  Aunty came down from Gizzy with dad and we all went to the pub for a drink and a break from the tangihanga at the marae.  You were still on the tit and it wasn't a problem for Aunty to feed you in the pub, actually it wasn't a problem to feed a baby anywhere.  

Man, I wish I was in Gizzy right now!  I wish I could just go and sit with my cousins and love them, and hold them, and just be there.  I'm feeling so sad for aunty, uncle and your siblings.  

It's published as a car accident.  Was it, cuz?

Did you run into that truck deliberately? 

I don't even have any words... moe mai rā my cousin. 

I hope peace finds you and has eased your mamae.

Moe mai rā, Whero

Whero, the 6 year old rednose pitball was euthanised this morning.  He spent his last moments surrounded by his ever-loving family. 

Whero has been in our family all of his life.  His daddy moved to Australia when he was just a wee pup and Whero was left with his 2nd daddy, Terry. 

Terry was a bit of a koretake dad too.  He kept going to jail too many times and Whero was left to be raised by his Aunty Jess, and Uncle Hayden.  Nash, a little squeaky Maltese has been his playmate and friend most of his life.  

Aunty Chakani would pick up both Nash and Whero and take them for walks all the time.  Whero was so used to his aunty, he'd jump the fence every time he heard her car coming along the road. 

Last night and this morning she visited with him.  Whero tried to rush to her but only his front legs would move.  He doesn't know what is going on. All he can do is try to crawl to give Chakani kisses and cuddles.

We will miss you, Whero.  Nash will probably miss you the most. You gave us friendship, laughter and love in everything you did. 

I can still see you racing through my house when you saw Tinkerbell, our cat.  You scared the heck out of her! You left a trail of destruction trying to get to her.  Poor Tinkerbell, I don't think she'll miss you - you almost killed her. :(

Even when you were a hōhā - like running away. I'm sure everyone on the FB lost and found page know you by heart from all the searching we did for you.

It was no problem to you - you didn't know the fuss you called.

Whero contracted a spinal disc disease. No one knows when or how he contracted the disease but it has become a wee bit too sudden for us.  He was paralyzed on Friday and the vet tells us he is in pain.  Euthanisation is Whero's most compassionate option because even if he was taken to a specialist, there is no guarantee that he will get better.  The tears in Whero's eyes tell us how much pain he is in.

His home family have arrived home from Australia yesterday and last night he spent his last night with those who love him.

 Moe mai rā Whero, you beautiful beautiful boy.

We love you.  We will forever love and miss you.

WHERO  

Not your time...

Looking back to when we were blessed with you.  You came to us with nothing but immediately gave to us everything.  Instant love, affection and innocence.

You needed us as we needed you.  You loved us as we loved you.
You depended on us and we protected you.

Today you needed love like never before.
You needed comfort and protection.
You needed to know it wasn't your fault.
It happens.

It just wasn't your time.

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